The Inspirational Leader Series
Mastering Group Resonance
Some leaders actually enjoy the game of trying to control their team through intimidation and all sorts of fear tactics. With manipulation at its core, they try to frighten their team into producing results. While wielding the saber of fear works to a certain extent… it does generate some results… it is accompanied by a huge price tag of negativity… that festers and spreads throughout the team. And, there are even more consequences than that!
For leaders who use fear, they pay their own price and may not even know it. They sacrifice their integrity for mediocre results. Having coached many leaders who started out using fear tactics, I learned that these people are really scared themselves but they simply do not have the self-awareness or leadership skills to do anything about it. They are often people who have a high need to be in control and they think that “Power Over” others is the way to make things happen. What they don’t understand is that “Power With” others is what creates outstanding results.
So, they have a job to do – a result to get – and instead of learning new ways of getting better results, they resort to what they have always known. Unfortunately, they end up creating a dissonant environment where people cannot perform their best.
I notice that these leaders are all fundamentally really great people… yet, sadly, they are so attached to their Persona (their public façade – their leadership mask), that it is difficult for them to admit they need leadership development training, much less seek it. It takes courage and self-love to face into ones self and tell ones self the truth, and then to take action based on that truth. Often these leaders lack both.
So if you are one of these leaders who uses fear to try to
motivate your staff, I encourage you to be gentle with yourself and then get
curious. Answer these questions:
- Am I really willing to continue fostering a dissonant environment… where people are scared - and because of this - they have limited access to their full cognitive abilities, their creativity, and their motivation?
- Am I really willing to continue sacrificing outstanding and innovative results for mediocre or good results… because I need to be in control, or I simply don’t have the skill to lead any other way?
- What is my level of willingness to expand my emotional
development and learn new leadership skills and team building skills to get
better results… and as a bonus, to feel better inside myself?
At the end of the day in our companies and in our communities the measure of who we are as a leader and our leadership effectiveness is contingent on two things: 1) The quality of results our team delivers, and 2) The harmony, inspiration, motivation, and enjoyment that our team experiences while producing a project.
Odd as it may sound, and contrary to popular belief, your number one job as a leader is to foster good feelings in the people you lead. Do you lead with resonance? Or, do you lead with dissonance? Both directly impact how your team feels. And how your team feels directly impacts how they perform.
I invite you to get curious about who you are - and who you want to be as a leader. Consider these wonder questions:
- Hmmm… I wonder who I want to be known as, and what I want to be known for?
- Hmmm… I wonder what behaviors I am demonstrating as leader when I am adding to a dissonant environment?
- Hmmm… I wonder what behaviors I am demonstrating as a leader when I am fostering a resonant environment.
… Inside of you, something wants to blossom!
Chris Lucerne, MCC
Coach to Inspirational Leaders
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